8 steps to Attitude change from You Can Win

If You want to build and maintain a positive Attitude, You need to consciously practice the following steps.....

1. change focus, look for the positive..

you need to become a seeker of good. you need to focus on the positive in your life start looking what is right in a person or situation instead of looking for what is bed..
   
           Be an optimist: how can one be an optimist? its well described by the following..

  "Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. talk health happiness and property, to every person you meet. make all Your friends feel that you appreciate their  good, qualities and strengths  look at the  sunny side  of everything. Think only of the best  work only for the best  and expect only the best.
            spend so much time to improving yourself that you have no time left to criticize others..Be too big  for worry and too noble for anger."

2. Make a habit of doing it now:
         

             "Most people go to their graves with music still in them" we don't achieve excellence because of our own lack of vision.

               he slept beneath the moon
               he basked beneath the sun
              he lived a life going to do 
              and died  with nothing done
                                                        -James Albery
some people  practice procrastination by hiding behind high sounding words saying "I'm analysing" a month later and six month later they are still analysing. what they don't realise that they are suffering from a desease called: paralysis by analysis and they will never succeed.
  Living in the present
     life is not a dress rehearsal. I don't care  what philosophy you believe in--we have got only one shot at this game called life.
             if we utilize our present to its fullest, we are  sowing the seeds for a better future,

                 if you want to build a positive attitude, learn the phrase "do it now" and stop the habit of procrastination 
                     

never leave till tomorrow, which you can do today
                                                                -Benjamin Franklin 

why do people procrastination?
  one major reason is, procrastination is an escapist attitude. Most people keep postponing because they don't have the courage to face up to the consequences and hence they keep postponing. the more they postpone, the price tag become higher and higher.
        
3. develop an Attitude of gratitude

   never forget what others have done for you and never remember what you have done for others 
      count your blessing not your troubles. Many of our blessing are hidden treasures--count your blessing and not your troubles

4. Get  into a continuous programe

let's get some myth out of the way. it is a general belief that we  get  educated in schools and colleges. 
             We do need information to get educated. but everyone who has information may not necessarily be educated. 

       education that does not rain  the heart can be dangerous. we don't need more academic education we need more value-based education 

education without values
         universities are turning out highly skilled barbrains because we don't provide a framework of values to young people, who more and more are searching for it.

            true education is training of both the mind head and the heart, it is better to be uneducated the ill-educated..

knowledge is not power
      we are often told that knowledge is power. Not really Knowledge is information. it  is potential power  and it becomes power only when it is acted upon
          Education takes many forms: it is not just  grades or a degree it is 

• cultivating our strength
• Learning self-dicipline
• Listening
• Eagerness to learn
• Developing characteristics leading to success 

our minds are  like muscles that can stretch of shrink it all depends on how much or how little we exercise them

if you think education is expensive, try ignorance

                                                                     -Derek Bok

A person can and will be successful with or without formal education if they have the 6 Cs:

• character
• conviction
• courage
• commitment
• courtesty
• competence

the first duty of universities is to teach wisdom, not trade,

FEED YOUR MIND

just as our bodies need  good food every day, our minds need positive thoughts every day the key words in the preceding sentence are good food and positive thoughts.

           if we feed  our body with junk food and our mind with negative thoughts we will have both a sick body and a sick mind We need  to  feed our mind with pure and positive thoughts to stay on track

similarly positive thinkers regularly build a reserve of positive attitude by constantly feeding their mind on pure, powerful and and positive thought on a daily basis .

5.Build high self-Esteem

what is self-Esteem?

  self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. when we  feel good, the world looks nice, productivity goes up and our relationship are  a lot  better, The reverse is just as  true. What could be the reason? It is that there is a direct  correlation between our feeling and behavior

How do you build High self-Esteem

         if you want to build high self-esteem quickly, one of the fastest ways is to  do something for those cannot repay you in cash or kind 

       whenever we do something positive in life, even if no one is  watching we rise little bit in our own eyes. Whenever we do something negative like lying, cheating, stealing, even if no one is watching we fall down a little in our own eyes-- That's the magic of self-Esteem.

   good is a natural outcome of doing good; and doing good is a natural outcome of being good how can person feel good when they don't do good.

6.Stay Away from negative  influenses

what are  negative influences?

negative influences are negative people drugs, alcohol, pornography, profanity etc. All negative influences pull people down, it depletes energy that could have been used constructively to achieve new heights.

       A person's character is judged  not only by  the company they keep but also by the company they avoid.

   If you associate with achievers, you will become one. If you associate with thinkers, you will become one if you associates with negative people you will become one.

smoking, drug and Alcohol

According to the US surgeon General's report ninety percent people become smokers by the age of eighteen,till the above study came, who was sponsoring all the major sporting events, of-course cigarette companies because they knew their exact  target audience and the impressionable age group

          drinking makes a person lose his inhibitions and give exhibitions 

Alcohol

in  my travels I have noticed that in some  countries drinking every night has become a national pastime. if you don't drink, they look at you as if there is something wrong. their motto is: "It doesn't matter how bad your English is, as long as your scotch is good" 

       Drinking and  smoking are  glamorized today it all start with the first time if ask people why they consume alcohol or take drugs, they will give you a host of reason such as; to celebrate to have fun to forget problem to shows that to one out of seven casual drinkers become alcoholics

pornography;

pornography has only one message and that is that a woman is only object of sex to  be used and discarded.

        ninety percent rapists are addicted to pornography

the consequences of pornography are that it 

• Dehumanizes women
• destroys marriages
• make fun of ethical and moral values
• destroys individuals families  and communities
• victimizes children 
• Encourages  sexual violence..

7.learn to like the things that  need  to  be done

start by doing what is  necessary then what is possible and  suddenly you are doing the impossible 

                                                       -St. Francis of Assisi

does an athlete  always  like to go for practice? probably not. but he does it anyway. some things  need  to  be  done  whether  we like them or not; for example mothers caring for their  young, This may  not  always be fun and  may even painful, but if we learn to like the task  the impossible becomes possible 

8.start your day with something posetive

Read or listen to something positive first thing in the morning  after a good nights sleep we  are relaxed and our subconscious

 is receptive, it sets  the tone for the day and puts us in the right  frame of mind to make the day..

winners don't do different things they do things differently..